If you are ankle deep in the journey of bringing up boys, you are in the right place.
Whether you found this article while nursing your blue bundle at night or you are distracting yourself until your teenager brings the car back, put your feet up and feel understood.
This Mom has parented through every stage in the past few years, with boys ranging from 6 to 17.
Our first son entered the world weighing 10 pounds plus my-pre-labour-chocolate-bar.
My husband later confessed his first thought was “I sure hope that’s a boy, cuz that would be one ugly girl.” Lucky for him he didn’t use his out loud words, but he was not wrong. Nothing dainty about ten pounds of boyhood. Newborn onesies looked like Spanx on our sweet Gigantu-baby.
But we liked the little chubba so much, we went on to have three more using the same recipe. X-Y. #testosterhome
Motherhood with boys has been quite a journey. An eye-opening adventure of frogs, snails, smells and snuggles. This is for all the Moms who are bringing up boys.
Dear Mama. You Know You are Bringing Up Boys When….
- When announcing the gender of your belly, you see a flicker of nervousness and sympathy in the eyes of friends.
- Your child squirts chocolate syrup in and around the toilet during your 32-second shower.
- You realize too late that a toddler nostril is the perfect opening for tic tacs.
- Your children only wear underwear in the house most days. And when they do wear clothes, they often forget their underwear.
- You spend Sunday mornings at church with darting eyes to keep an accurate head count. You rarely sustain eye contact or finish sentences.
- The thought of raising a young man is the most humbling, awe-inspiring project you ever undertook.
- You use creative tactics for teaching reading. Like sounding out words together while doing somersaults.
- Read alouds work best when mouths are being fed and wiggly bums are firmly planted on kitchen chairs.
- You say things like, “Please don’t sit on your brother’s head” more often than you’d care to admit.
- You can’t own anything nice and that’s not as sad as you thought it would be.
- Couches are disposable. And when they have served your family well they will beg to be sent to a better place. Like a house with girls.
- You learn wrestling is a loving, semi-violent version of hugging for brothers. You stop being alarmed, and may even tear up when they pound each other with affection.
- After years of hearing bathroom jokes, you start to think they’re funny. And may even throw one of your own into the mix.
- Your kids are pretty proud when you burp loudly.
- You devour resources on raising boys like Mother and Son: The Respect Effect.
- Your children can pee in a coffee cup while you keep driving. And you’re a bit jealous.
- You watch other families with boys a few years older than yours, and marvel at the glimpse into your next chapter.
- Your heart aches with every growth spurt, voice deepening and “Night, Mom” realizing it is all going by far too quickly.
- You are never more proud than when you say the words, “This is my son…”
- There is a knowing look of solidarity between you and other Boy Moms. #wegetit
It tickles me PINK to gather in a community of Boy Moms today to share our collective experiences.
Hop on over to my friend Alicia’s site, Turquoise Grace, and check out her series Ask The Boy Mom. And seriously, with a name like Turquoise Grace, how can you resist? #blognameenvy
The first time I stumbled upon Turquoise Grace I knew I had found my people. Alicia writes with authenticity and grace to encourage us to be the Moms God has called us to be. I know you’ll love her too. Pour a cup of tea and inhale these truths.
Truly, the only thing cooler than being a Boy Mom is getting to know other ones. It’s like a secret club with the password: HELP – SEND ESTROGEN.
We are all writers with hearts that beat for Moms in general, and specifically Boy Moms today. We are waving from the next lane, as we navigate our bumps and turns together and soak up sun-drenched skies during the easy stretches.
Alicia’s Boy Mom series is filled with nuggets of truth and wisdom from Moms for our journey.
Drop me an answer to this question and I’ll respond once I’m finished shopping for a new couch.